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From what I can see the main problem with all bulimics is their focus. Where is their focus? – On food and binging-purging. Bulimics are always busy thinking about what they are going to binge on, how they are going to get the food, what time they are going to start etc.

The problem is, if you spend all your time focusing on something the universe always gives you what you focus on, always. So what the bulimic gets is more of the same; thoughts about food to the point it replaces all other useful thoughts. Instead of thinking about friendship and interacting with people and feeling -good thoughts they are stuck in a black hole they can’t get out of.

The No 1 task for a bulimic at this stage is to work on her/his mental focus. I understand bulimics may have physical problems with their body (like tiredness, muscle aches, heart beating etc) stopping them from doing many thinks but they will not have to spend a lot of physical effort on changing their focus.

They just should accept the fact that their mind is actually lying to them when it makes them think and feel that they are fat, useless, and have no future. They believe the only thing that they have is food as a remedy to make them feel better. It is their brain playing tricks on them and they believe it.

Bulimics have to teach themselves to focus on other things than food and try to re-train themselves to get satisfaction from those other things. As an example becoming embraced in a hobby or doing studies, interesting job and the like will go a long way to helping them.

Some will say that this is easier to say than do, but bulimics taught themselves to focus on food easily enough so they can just as easily focus on something else that is good for them, it is all just perception.

The improvement in their focus will not happen overnight as they didn’t get to where they are now overnight didn’t they? They have to start at the beginning and take baby steps one at a time.

Confucius said “That even the longest journey starts with a single step” so this is what they have to do, a single step then another single step and so on and so on.

To make this first baby step towards overcoming bulimia a sufferer should first of all start by replacing her/his bulimic thoughts with other good thoughts.

For example, when someone starts thinking about preparing for a binge (what she is going to binge on, how it should be cooked etc) try to stop the thoughts immediately and think about something else. For example what movie I want see, or what course I want to do or what job promotion I want to get, what kind of dress I want to buy and the like to break the moment. (depends on the person). It will take effort at first but the more one does it the easier it becomes.

The other technique which helps to change focus is making a dream board. Take a piece of cardboard (at least 30cm x 50cm), old magazines and glue stick. Look through magazines and find pictures which matched what you want to have in life or what you want to become. Take the scissors and cut out these pictures you have chosen and stick them on the cardboard (the more the better). The main point here is that picture should match your wishes and desires.

When you fill out the cardboard with the pictures (and maybe some slogans and sayings that inspire you) put this cardboard up on the wall where you can see it all the time.
Everyday spend some time looking at your cardboard and thinking about what you like or would like to become.

And every time you start dreaming about binging – go and look at your true wishes and desires on the cardboard and think that every binge -purge is taking you away from the things you really want to achieve and want to become.

Think that it is your bulimia that wants you to binge and the bulimia is lying to you again and again about your feelings and that the bulimia is your enemy.

In reality it boils down to which side you will take: yours that support your wishes and desires, or the bulimia’s that supports the binging-purging and takes you away from the good things you want in life.

To conclude, changing mental focus is the main and most important thing to overcome bulimia. If a bulimic does not change her/his focus it will never be possible for them to become a healthy person ever again.

Dr Irina Webster MD is the Director of Women Health Issues Program which covers different areas of Women Health. She is a recognised athority in the eating disorders area. She is an author of many books and a public speaker. To learn more about overcoming bulimia go to http://www.bulimia-cure.com

Many of the great High School coaches I visit with at the coaching clinics I do tell me about what they are looking for from youth football players entering their High School programs. The most successful coaches tell me that all they are looking for are kids that have a love and appreciation for the game of football and that the player is “coachable”.

What does being “coachable” mean?

It means the player is attentive and able to follow direction from coaches.
The player does not respond negatively to constructive criticism.
The player understands the coaches standing on the team and understands the coaches, not the players have the better knowledge base on technique and strategy than the player.
The player efforts.
The player is able to “shake off” bad experiences and learn from them.
The player does not “cop an attitude” when demoted or turn “Hollywood” when promoted.

Unfortunately many youth football players go into their High School experience with bad habits fostered by their youth football coaches. Obviously many of these young men don’t change overnight into the selfish crybaby monsters many of the High School coaches complain about. It is a long process of enablement for many of them by both their parents and coaches.

How do kids get to this point ?

Youth Coaches enabling the player by cowering to the players (or their parents) every demand for fear of losing the player to a rival team or losing games because the player quits.
Lack of good fundamental coaching. If something works in spite of the use of solid technique, that poor technique is allowed and thereby encouraged.
Parents enabling the player by cowering to their every whim.
Parents living their lives through their children.
Parents coveting the “full ride” or NFL dream for their child.
Parent coaches “staring” their sons on youth football teams.
Poor practice methods.
Inconsistent disciplining methods employed by parents and parents.
Lack of sportsmanship standards by youth football teams, coaches and parents.
Promoting a player to “star status” getting away from team play and humility.

This may sound a bit grim, but fortunately we are talking about a small minority of youth football players. Unfortunately many of these “uncoachable” players are very good athletes who know they can play. These players have been held to such low standards they have little chance of making the typical High School team, let alone move on to College Football. Some of them even hold weak youth football coaches “hostage” by threatening to quit or move to another team. Most High School and College coaches just refuse to put up with this type of attitude.

How do you make sure that when a player leaves your program he is “coachable”?

Let all the players AND PARENTS know the standards required for him to have the privilege of playing for your team well before the first day of practice.
Let all the players AND PARENTS know the consequences of not meeting set standard
(attendance, effort, listening ability, attitude, etc).
We let our players AND PARENTS know we want all the kids to finish the season and that we will coach everyone up the best we can, but we don’t care if their sons are great or poor athletes, we are going to be successful with whoever we have, it doesn’t matter.
Let all players AND PARENTS know that football is a team game and all players will play in the position and technique that best suits the players ability and the needs of the team.
Let all players AND PARENTS know that players will be corrected when they do something incorrectly, The reason this is done is out of concern that the player play safely and properly. It is MUCH easier to say nothing.
When you do have to offer “constructive criticism” do it using the “sandwich” method. Sandwich the criticism between 2 positives, then encourage the player in a positive fashion.
Hold the player accountable to a perfect standard on things they can easily control like stance, first step, alignment, effort and being a good teammate.
Hold the player accountable to having a positive learning spirit. If he drops his lip or gives you the evil eye, deal with it immediately. Let him know again why it’s important he correctly does whatever you are trying to teach him. If he is insolent you will have to figure out the best method to reach him which could mean a lap, sitting out or a reduction in playing time.
Foster humility and a true team attitude in word and deed, making no one player more important than another.

Fortunately due to us being very explicit about our expectations and early on holding kids accountable to very high standards, this has not been an issue for me, but we have a few minor issues. One very talented player I had in 2003 was Richard W, my fullback. Richard was very small but powerful and quick, he was also very smart. Richard had been coached by me to stay in our wedge play, he was to break out of the wedge only between the tackles and only when an opening appeared there 5 yards or more past the line of scrimmage as the wedge naturally comes apart on its own. We had talked about it, diagrammed it, walked it, jogged it, ran it, fit and freezed it and even scrimmaged it A TON. Up to that point Richard had been very obedient and done a great job with the play. However in our first game of the season against a perennially tough team, he had different ideas. We had a packed house that day there were hundreds in the seats, lots of grandmas, grandpas, uncles, aunts, moms dads and friends, it was loud. On our very first offensive snap Richard got into a very nicely formed wedge play, but inexplicably broke the ball around the end for about a 40 yard gain, The stands went nuts as we had the ball on the 10 yard line and were ready to draw the first blood of that game and our young season.

The problem was he had not run that play properly, against most teams he would have been tackled for a modest gain or loss, but against this team he lucked out and got a long gainer. I immediately took him out of the game, my very best player in a hotly contested game. I calmly let him know that he did not have permission to run the ball outside the tackles on a fullback wedge play, that he knew this and that he wouldn’t be playing again until the 2nd quarter. Fortunately his parents had been at our first practice where we laid out exactly how we were going to handle situations just like this one. In addition both his parents had seen the coaching expertise and crispness demonstrated in our practices that gave them the confidence we knew what we were doing. I had met them both previously and during a break in the action I let them know what was up, they supported me 100%. This was in a very inner-city environment where Jerry Springer incidents are very common. Trust me, we have similar discipline issues in the rural bedroom community we live in now with “helicopter” parents.

When Richard came back to play in the 2nd quarter, he played very well and did exactly what we had asked him to do in a game we went on to win 36-6. Richard ended up being one of the best fullbacks I ever coached with over 2,000 yards rushing in that 11-0 Season. Had I not taken this drastic step I doubt Richard would have had the same success that season. This action also demonstrated to all our players and parents, it didn’t matter who the player was or what the game circumstances were, the standard was going to be enforced and the standard in the end was the players friend, not his enemy.

The Bible says that if we hate our children we will not discipline them. I care enough about my players to discipline them in an effective way and my hope is that you do too.
Some Words from that book in modern language:
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, But he who hates reproof is stupid
A wise son accepts his father’s discipline, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke
A fool rejects his father’s discipline, But he who regards reproof is prudent
Does this mean we are cruel to the kids, screaming and yelling like some kind of maniacal drill sergeant all the time? No, I’m a big advocate of making football fun for kids but if you do not teach a player to be coachable using some reasonable discipline, you aren’t doing him any long term favors.
Sometimes disciplining is difficult and in the short term may be painful. But in the best interests of that child and your team, you have to do it. Just think of all the great athletes out there that could have had different lives had they had a youth football coach that would have held them accountable at an early age BEFORE that players world view had been formed ?
They call these the formative years for a reason. Help your players be teaching them to be coachable so they will stay in the game and benefit from the life lessons the game teaches us all.

Dave Cisar-

With over 15 years of hands-on experience as a youth coach, Dave has developed a detailed systematic approach to developing youth players and teams. His personal teams to using this system to date have won 97% of their games in 5 Different Leagues. For free video clips of Dave’s team in action: Football Plays

It’s been a big year for my husband and me. We had our first child and recently closed on our first home, since our town home was feeling a bit snug with our new addition. Given the current state of the housing market, we were very fortunate to be able to make a profit on our town home and receive the financing necessary for our dream home.

Signing the dotted line and receiving the keys was a fantastic feeling; after all we now had 5000 square feet and one acre of gorgeous property that belonged completely to us. However, along with that “high” was the sobering reality that we now had a thirty year mortgage to contend with. During our first year of marriage, we made the goal to live debt-free and within three years, we had all our student loans and credit cards paid off. So to have a debt as massive as a mortgage was slightly disconcerting, despite the fact that the majority of Americans have to get a mortgage. How disheartening to think that by the time the thirty years is up, we will have paid nearly twice as much in interest as the original purchase price of the home.

I had heard from friends and acquaintances about different early mortgage payoff plans that were available. One such program that we came across that seemed to have rave reviews was the Money Merge Account, offered by United First Financial.

In the simplest of terms, the Money Merge Account system empowers homeowners with the ability to reduce the principal amount of their mortgage, thus reducing the interest that accrues on the total loan. The driving force of the program is an advanced line of credit (ALOC, also known as a home equity line of credit or HELOC). In order to qualify for a HELOC, homeowners must have equity in their home. My husband and I purchased our new home during the first phase of a residential building project. Since the value of the homes have increased, our house subsequently appreciated through the duration of the second and third phases. Once a homeowner has been approved for the line of credit, they are ready to use the Money Merge Account system. The HELOC must also be able to operate similar to a checking account.

Anytime you deposit income into your primary checking account, you transfer it to the line of credit and tell the Money Merge Account how much was deposited. Over time, the system will instruct you to put a certain amount of additional money towards the primary balance of your mortgage, permitting the interest rate to drop. Based on the deposits you make, the Money Merge Account uses advance algorithms to compute how much extra you should pay and when. The end result is to create the greatest interest rate savings possible.

United First Financial provides seminars for individuals interested in learning more about the Money Merge Account. My husband and I attended one and would highly recommend it to any of our friends and family; we found the seminar to be informative, educational, and helped us realize that the Money Merge Account is a system apt for us and our situation.

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Everyone’s worried about the economy these days, and with good reason. Middle-class people are shopping less, saving money by cutting out small luxuries, and delaying larger purchases. If you’ve always been comfortably middle-class, or if you’ve had to struggle in the past, putting yourself on a tight budget may seem depressing. But there are benefits to saving money that go beyond your bank account.

Your possessions don’t have to define you:

Are you bummed out because you can’t afford that super-light laptop or designer handbag? Saving money means putting off these types of purchases for the foreseeable future. But did it ever occur to you that this may be a good thing?

While you’re saving money by not shopping, you’ll have plenty of time to ponder what role possessions play in your sense of self. Shiny new objects make us feel good in the short term. When that feeling wears off, it’s time to go shopping again – or it’s an opportunity to look at our real selves, at who we are without the labels and logos.

You can find other ways to reward yourself:

You’ve had a long week, you’ve worked hard, and now you’d really like to reward yourself with a trip to the mall. But you can’t – you’re saving money. What to do instead?

We’re all familiar with the saying, “Time is money”. We’re so focused on churning out the dollars every waking moment that we rarely consider time as a gift. While we’re saving money, we can give the gift of time to ourselves. What if you gave yourself a whole Saturday afternoon to relax, read, walk, write in your journal? This is a reward that costs nothing, and it’ll do more to shore up your sense of self-worth than anything you could buy.

You can be a better friend, partner, and parent:

What would you and your family do without a hundred cable channels, the latest video games, an endless stream of DVDs, cell phones with a zillion gadgets? Once the complaints about saving money die down, you just might learn to enjoy each other’s company. Young children could be convinced that Monopoly is a really cool new game. Your teenagers might even join in. Think of a quieter, simpler household: fewer distractions, more talk and laughter.

If saving money means fewer distractions, your relationships with your partner, your friends, your parents, and your siblings could benefit. With less money to spend on lavish get-togethers, expensive restaurants, and the gift-giving frenzy of Christmas and birthdays, you’ll have more opportunities to talk, and to listen.

There’s no denying that an economic downturn brings justifiable worry about everything from mortgages to college and retirement funds. But when it comes to cutting down on discretionary spending, saving money may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Robin Matuk is an Internet Business Coach who addresses the needs of entrepreneurs and business owners looking to maximize the power of the Internet to build, manage, and grow a thriving business. She is the founder of My Digital Coach and a blogger at Creating with Impact.